Confessions of a Tired Black Man Intro

Confessions of a Tired Black Man 

Intro 
They say behind every great man is a great woman. Well I’m her to ask the question why can’t a man just put his back to the wall and stand for himself. My name is Chance Mandela Wideman and I’ve come to the conclusion of late that simply put, I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired. From this realization I’ve taken the time to review my life and notice one nagging vexatious common denominator in my obstacle driven memory: woman 
Relationships today have become less of an intimate connection between two loving people and more of a fight between opposing sides. The problem is neither side has a justified reason to fight. In my experience each person in the relationship is constantly fighting themselves and has built this wall of fear, pain, and insecurities around themselves. This wall has been built in hope that no pain worst then what we do to ourselves can ever reach us. Yet you have to remember that every wall has two sides and while your wall keeps new pain out, it represses and allows old pain to foster within us. So before we can let another person into our hearts we have to learn to break down our own walls. If we never come out from behind these shadowed walls of insecurities then we will never see the light of true love. 
Men and woman deal with their walls in very different ways, but the underlying problems exist in both sexes. The old saying goes, “a man’s love is life, but a woman’s life is love,” no statement has ever stood truer over the test of time. This ideology in which men focus their attention on living their lives to the fullest and letting love come as it may, while woman focus their lives on searching for love and putting life on hold until they find it, is a constant way of life among my generation. For the people who see this aspect of a woman to be a fault you must realize that it is in no way the woman’s fault. In this modern society woman are nurtured to focus on love, vice versa men are taught under the banner of carpe diem. So the fabric of a woman’s wall differs from that of a man. To bring a focus to my argument I will focus primarily on men and woman in the African American community. A black woman’s wall today may include any combination of the following: abusive childhood, lack of a father figure, corporate glass ceiling, detrimental relationships, unplanned pregnancies, dead beat baby dads, and the list goes on forever. Whereas typically in the African American community today a black man’s wall is built on the publicly perceived foundation of one thing: woman. Well ladies this black man is here to let you in on a little secret that most men aren’t even secure enough with their own self identity and internal balance of masculinity vs. sensitivity within themselves to admit…our walls are more then You. Although woman provide the glue to keep our walls high and strong, the bricks are individual unique pieces of our lives that if need be can stand on their own. It’s time for this sick and tired black man to confess a few of his bricks, break down his walls, and along the way give woman an inside look on simply why men do the things we do. Keep reading, you might be surprised on what you find out.